WE CAN TALK ABOUT

CRYSTAL-CLEAR COMMUNICATION

Everyone says the key to great relationships is communication. So once you know what you want, how do you talk about it? How do you share a fantasy, bring up a scary topic, spill the beans about what you really want, or own up to something you’ve been hiding?

Together, we will find creative, empowering and accessible ways for you to say what needs to be said, powerfully and gracefully.

EXQUISITE BOUNDARIES

No more tolerating, enduring or “going along with it.” No more overwhelm, over-accommodating or feeling run over by others. By developing exquisite boundaries, you will stop losing yourself in other people, and create the space for the things that nourish and feed you. I’ll show you how to recognize your shifting, wholesome and so-very-necessary boundaries, so you and everyone around you knows exactly where the line is, making it feel safe and good to create the intimacy you want. 

PRIORITIZING PLEASURE

Your capacity for pleasure is a natural part of being human. You were born with it. You don’t have to earn it. Pleasure is about noticing what actually brings you joy and what actually feels good. When you know, listen to and follow what genuinely pleases you, you avoid the traps of over-consumption, chasing the wrong thing, and staying in the rat race. You stop trying to impress other people and start living on your own terms. Life becomes a lot more satisfying, your confidence grows, and knowing what you want becomes second nature.

GOING OFF THE BEATEN PATH

Not everyone gets the road map for monogamous, heterosexual, marriage-and-babies- and-a-white-picket-fence relationships. When you find yourself curious about (or needing) something else, it can feel like being thrust into the wilderness. Your own path of non-traditional relationships, gender exploration, child-free living, chosen family or shifting sexual identity is highly specific to you (and absolutely perfect). But you don’t have to go it alone. I’ll hold up my torch and help you blaze your own trail. 

FINDING AND BUILDING COMMUNITY

Surrounding yourself with a community of care that respects, honors and cares for you is crucial for staying grounded, building new habits and reminding you of the values you hold. Whether you’re hoping to find better potential partners to date, looking for support for your queer, kinky or polyamorous life, or looking to build deeper and more fulfilling friendships, your people are out there! I’ll help you find them.

WHAT YOU *REALLY* NEED

No one wants to be needy, yet having needs is fundamental to the human experience. Together, we’ll work for you to notice, value and even treasure the messages your body, your heart and your yearning tell you about what you need. I’ll support you in learning to discern between your actual (deep, profound, sometimes messy) needs and your strategies for meeting them (especially if they may not be working anymore). Far from being needy, your needs are a map, guiding you toward the kind of glorious life, love and connection you most want.