Whether this year has been awful or glorious, messy or tidy, full of heartbreak or full of love, I hope you give yourself a pat on the back this week.

One of my most important annual rituals is making a list of accomplishments. Over the years, I’ve found this ritual provides something important to my recovering Good Girl: Letting myself see what I’ve actually gotten done.

It doesn’t matter if the thing you hoped for is incomplete still, or if it didn’t turn out the way you thought it would. It doesn’t matter if you wanted to do better or if it could have been some other way. It’s about writing down what you DID. And giving yourself some credit for that.

So whatcha got?

• Did you make more money this year? (Even if it wasn’t as much as you hoped, it still counts!)
• Did you set a boundary with someone that you needed to? (Even if you wobble sometimes, it still counts!)
• Did you do something for your health? (It doesn’t have to be perfect to be moving in the right direction.)
• Did you check something off your bucket list? Make a new friend? Do something that scared you? Do more of something you had wanted to do? Complete a 30-day challenge? Make art? Move? Keep your room just a little bit tidier? Learn a new skill? Were you more honest with someone? Did you keep your plants alive? Did you keep yourself alive?

It counts!

Write it down. A year is a long time, and you did some amazing things this year, as well as things that aren’t maybe all that impressive to others, but they matter to YOU and deserve credit.

So write it down and congratulate yourself. However it went, you deserve to acknowledge what you’ve done.