MEET Marcia b.
I teach people to unapologetically want what they want—in life, in love, and in bed—and to talk about it like it matters.
Where your desire finds a home.
You’re here because part of you is tired of shrinking, apologizing or playing small.
You want that spark—the one you can actually feel in your body.
Boundaries that don’t just protect you—but turn you on a little.
Pleasure that’s yours. Not something you perform or get right.
You want to trust your yes, and your no, without second-guessing yourself every five minutes.
I’m Marcia B. I’ve been doing this work for over 20 years—helping women (and other people who’ve been trained to be “good”) come back to their bodies, their voice, and their erotic confidence.
I teach at the Esalen Institute, I’m on faculty at the School of Consent and Shakti Shiva Academy, and I co-wrote Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators.
I’m also a co-creator of Cuddle Party—one of the early cultural experiments in teaching touch, boundaries, and consent in a way that people could actually feel.
But honestly? That’s not the most important part.
What matters is that I know how to help you come back to yourself.
To the version of you that knows what you want.
That can feel a yes in your body—and trust it.
That can say no without collapse or guilt.
Here’s what we actually do together:
Get you back in touch with desire—the kind that has a pulse
Practice saying yes and no in ways that feel clean and solid
Build boundaries that don’t just protect you, but give you range
Explore kink, open relating, queer connection—without shame or confusion
Let pleasure be something you live in, not something you visit occasionally
The space I hold is warm, direct, and very real. There’s room for curiosity, awkwardness, laughter, intensity—all of it. Nothing gets shamed. Nothing gets rushed.
We go at the speed your body can actually handle.
Sometimes that’s slow. Sometimes it moves faster than you expect.
You can work with me through 1:1 coaching, private workshops, or Good Girl Recovery.
The point isn’t to become someone new.
It’s to stop abandoning yourself in small, constant ways—and start living from what’s actually true.
If something in you is already leaning forward reading this—
that little pull, that flicker of yes—
that’s enough.
That’s where we start.
Marcia B.
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